For the past several months, I have been working with a web designer to update my website. Except for a few small changes here and there, I have had the same website since 2010. Just like my outdated wardrobe, I did not want to change the style of my website. I just wanted to make some technological changes so that it would be easier for people in need of my therapy services to find me online. However, my web designer encouraged me to consider other changes, as well. I made the decision to be open to her suggestions. However, my mind was screaming “No! I love my website just the way it is.”
This experience of updating my website got me thinking about change. Often, we want to make changes in our lives because we’re not happy or we’re not getting the results we want; however, fear of change often gets in the way.
- What if I fail?
- What if I don’t like the changes once they are made?
Fear of the unknown and worst-case scenarios can lead to avoidance and procrastination. I know that has been the case for me. I kept telling myself that I did not have enough time or money to update my website. If I really think about it, these were just excuses to mask the fear. Our minds have a tendency to tell us the worst-case scenario when we are afraid. It can happen with small changes, like when we are considering a new hairstyle or a different paint color for our kitchen or with big changes, like changing jobs or ending an unhealthy relationship. When we don’t change, we can feel comfortable with the familiar, knowing what to expect. Unfortunately, not taking risks to make positive changes in our lives can interfere with us living lives that feel meaningful.
What can we do when fear of change gets in the way of taking that first step?
- Be mindful of fearful thoughts and feelings.
- Focus on goals and values.
- Ask “What would I be doing if my fearful thoughts and feelings weren’t controlling my choices?” and then do it.
- Remain open to suggestions made by others.
So without further ado, click here to see my new website. Let me know what you think. Share it with your friends. And please reach out to me if fear of change is getting in the way of you living the life you want.